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Many mental health professionals are horribly biased and/or woefully and willfully ignorant about men who are targets of female perpetrated abuse in addition to being female biased or gynocentric.
These ignorant and biased therapists frequently blame their male clients for the abuse they’re experiencing ( issues. If you’re a man who’s being emotionally, psychologically, sexually, physically or financially abused by a woman it is not okay.
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Fundamentally, most abuse survivors feel ashamed of their history and are terrified of being abandoned and/or judged once they disclose abuse to a partner. The internet is okay for information, but you'll also find a lot of victim blaming and testimonial's from immature men who were "burned" by an abuse survivor. Again, if you're not that person it's okay. If she chose you, she doesn't want you to change who you are.
So, I'll answer from the perspective of an abused women. Two issues that come up in every relationship for an abuse victim is difficulty trusting (their partners or their own judgment) and fear of abandonment. You need to read up about what you can expect from professional sources. It's okay if you aren't in a place to be this person for her. You don't need to be perfect in any of these areas yourself, but you need to be self-aware enough and willing to work on it. If she's healthy, she just wants to be treated with love and respect.
If you've assessed where you're at and are willing to go forward then you need to discuss with her if she's received treatment, what her support system is like, if she has triggers and what happens with her if things become difficult. Data supporting the roughly equal rates of abuse perpetrated by women have been discredited by its critics.Criticism isn’t based upon the scientific principles used to gather the data, but on fear-based, unsubstantiated beliefs that all men are abusers from whom women and children must be protected (Farrell, 1999; Straus, 2006; Straus, 2007). Despite the much lower probability of physical injury resulting from attacks by women, assaults by women are a serious social problem, just as it would be if men ‘only’ slapped their wives or ‘only’ slapped female fellow employees and produced no injury” (Straus, 1997, p. As of 2010, there are over 250 and counting worldwide academic studies that consistently show women, by their own admission, can be as aggressive as their male counterparts (Parity, 2010, Fiebert, 1997, 2004, 2009; Dutton, 2007).Psychological aggression is so widespread that intimate partners routinely and intentionally hurt each others’ feelings and women are substantially more likely than men to use psychological aggression (Muñoz-Rivas, et al., 2007).Yet, despite all of this data, men who seek support for and shelter from abuse have very few options.
They have virtually no programs, shelters nor advocacy groups.