Dating an alcoholic man in recovery
You said you’ve met recently, so I would imagine there’s plenty that you don’t know about each other.
Dating can be so squeamish and stressful that many people who aren’t problem drinkers consider it to go hand-in-sweaty-hand with booze.
I can say this much: When you date someone, you date all of them.
In the beginning, when it’s all sunshine and sweetness it’s easy to fall for them and expect things to always be that way. In terms of dating an alcoholic, you at least know upfront that he has had a problem with alcohol and he’s taking steps to deal with it.
If you had been dating him for a while or were in a long, loving relationship, my answer would have been to help him see it through, learn about what it’s like for an alcoholic to recover from alcohol addiction and be as supportive as possible.
But you’re at a crossroads and from what you said in your question, it sounds like the best thing for both of you would be to not start up a relationship.
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